Deal?
Another kuttyma post – she has taken over my life and blog
We make deals. Deals to get things done fast. It started innocent and now she knows how to work me.
Every time she says “Let us make a deal mommy” my heart skips a beat. I know she has got some outrageous idea and hopes that I will comply.
Like this one,
“After I come from school let us go to different library everyday mommy” – Yes I am all for library visits but every day after school/work? Gosh
“I will eat if you read to me” has been a long time favorite. I usually comply. It has changed these days. “I will eat, you feed me and read me XYZ book”. I can multi-task but this is stretching it a bit too far.
and on the same vein
“I get bored while I in tub mommy. You read to me and wash my hair. I will not cry” – she hates getting her hair washed so she makes this “deal”
As much as I rejoice at the fact that many of her “deals” revolve around books. I find it very manipulative. I am not sure if it is an age thing or if it is her. Time will tell I guess.
For now, I indulge well at times
Sudha Sruthi
June 1, 2013 at 3:24 pm🙂 Got your perspective!!
pooh
May 28, 2013 at 6:26 pm@sudhasruthi – freedom of choice is different and expecting others to do things is different. If you see the trend she wants me to do things for her and that is the manipulation. I want her to have choices but she needs to do her own work – like read her own book or eat and then read. Yes she is too young to travel alone – freedom does not mean I send my 3 year old alone to the library right? And I do not believe that having food at the right time every day is good 🙂 One needs to eat only when hungry and enjoy food.
sudhasruthi
May 28, 2013 at 1:20 pm@ pooh: Appreciating the difference of opinion..But if she really has the freedom to make independent choices I believe that she need not require a deal..She will get whatever she wants..She has the choice of having her food or not..She also has to choice of realizing through the hard way that having food at right time every day is good for her.
pooh
May 27, 2013 at 3:36 pm@Sudha – I am not “lot of parents” – my parenting style is different. I prefer not to bribe and if kuttyma wants ice cream for breakfast she will get it at my household. If she does not want to eat that is also fine with me. And honestly she does not know the word “poochandi” or anything similar to that.
I want my daughter making choices independently and the manipulative part is probably a phase.
sudhasruthi
May 27, 2013 at 12:21 pmI do not find anything manipulative about the deals..Lot of parents have to bribe kids of this age with ice cream and poochaandi..L8r she will realize eating is for good health and so is washing hair 🙂